Expression, Suppression or Impression

How can diseases and disorders of the body be related to your emotions?

Very simple, if you are not expressing your negative emotion, it means that you are suppressing it. If you keep on suppressing it for a sustained period of time, instead of going out, it goes in. And it gets 'impressed' in your body.

Remember the last time you felt very angry, humiliated or frustrated. Remember it a little more. Now feel it ten time over. Do not let it come out by expressing it through your body or speech. Can you feel some sensations in your body? Where do you feel it? Something in your body has shifted. You are breathing differently. You may also feel the sensation in the extremes of your body, in the palms and fingers, in the soles of the feet and the legs, in the chest or in the stomach. It is like the pressure of some force, some energy wanting to come out and not being allowed to. This is your suppressed emotion.

We are not allowed to express it due to social norms, consideration or because we were told not to express that emotion. We were told or we concluded that it is 'not ok' to express that emotion. We decided that to express that emotion invites disapproval or other costs that we do not want to pay in our lives and resolved not to express it. In extreme cases, we were forced to, we became 'ellergic' to that emotion.

It is such a suppressed emotion, subtle-low grade-almost not noticable, or loud-high intensity-clearly felt emotion that can and does get impressed in our body. In a big traumatic eventful moment, or layer-by-layer with repeated suppression over the years.

When you clear the emotional impact and psyenergise it, the body, the mind and the energy system, all heal simultaneously.

What would you do if you loved yourself a little more?

What does the quality of your waking hours depend upon? Upon the quality of your sleep hours.

What would the quality of your work hours depend upon? Quite obviously, upon the fun and play you are having!

There are four parameters which can indicate the quality of one's wellness: Sleep,Food,Exercise and Fun.

Is your sleep just sleep? or is it 'Rest'?
Are you just eating yourself? or are you 'nourishing' yourself?
Are you just exercising? Or having physical rejuvenation through the wholeness of it?
And finally, are you having enough fun and play in your life.

One or more of the above is always taking a beating while the others go on at the best levels. For your next Peak-Performance, have a look at these parameters to check if each is at its peak level. Which one is (or which ones are) getting a step-child treatment, getting neglected...almost as if it is someone else's business, someone else's life or someone else's responsibility.

The barrier to one's wellness is always a subtle (when not blatant) emotional/psychological/attitudinal/behavioural block. And all such blocks are just forgetting to love oneself a little more.

The person who is providing sufficient rest and eating good food does not take time out for exercise.Would he do that if he loved himself a little more?

This executive who is a conscientious worker, is eating well, exercising, and coming home to surf the net and watch TV for unwinding and entertainment, is sleep deprived? Would she let go of some of the TV if she loved herself a little more?

This ideal businessman and respected member of the community is turning into an 'I-DULL' man. He is eating well, sleeping well, exercising regularly, but his entertainment has become those socially obligatory get-togethers, instead of going out and tracking in the woods or making a few sketches that he would soo love to make one day. Would he deprive himself of this authentic fun and play if he loved himself a little more?

This is where energy-psychology (EFT & GAGA) become relevant. You may be feeling in balance, because you are over compensating more one of these. But you can look at your emotional/psychological/attitudinal/behavioural blocks coming in the way of any of these parameters. These blocks would be coming in the way such that you are unable to feel inspired or put into practice one or more of rest, nourishment, exercise and playful fun.

You can Audit,Troubleshoot and Overhaul them with energy-psychology, to go to the next level of holistic wellness and thus, to the next level of your Peak-Performance. You can move from your lop-sided, compensated,fake balance to a new, authentic and expanded equilibrium. That would be your new self...that would be a 'New Winner'!

The rewards of using would be reflected on your sleep,food, but more importantly on your work life, personal life, social and community life. There will be this new level of Psyenergy available to you, for experiencing and impacting, dealing, dancing with each of these areas of your life.

The problem of the world is not that people are selfish. We would be much safer and fulfilled if people were really selfish. The problem is that we do not love ourselves enough. We would live different lives and structure the hours of our days of our years of OUR life, if we loved ourselves...just a little more.

Frankly speaking, i don't care much if you are not getting that increment,that business or that posting...or even those Oscars,Nobels or Olympic medals, if you are screwing up any of these parameters. Achievements are cheap substitutes for an internal psychological fulfillment, getting reflected in the compromise of these parameters.

If all four of these parameters are at their best for you, do tell me about it. I would love to learn more about you and more from you! If not, stop for a moment and think what is coming in the way of it? And use EFT, GAGA, Energy-Psychology to go past it.

3 year old backache gone

Here's sharing with you the first person account of how a three year old back pain went away with EFT. I guess Shephali has left nothing much for me to add, except to underline that yes, it was her 'coachability' and surrender to the process that created a space for such fantastic relief for herself !
Cheers

Shephali wrote:
" My 3 year old backache went away completely with EFT

I always thought I was the privileged one for I got married at the age of
24, had my first baby at 27, and the second one at 30. It was the perfect
family at the ideal time. But then there is other side of the coin too!

I was very fit and healthy since my childhood. I had a great health and a
great time during both of my pregnancies. In my first pregnancy, I was
admitted to the hospital early morning at 7:00 and pain was induced to me. I
was getting pains after every 1 minutes for a duration of 50 sec and the
whole day went like that. Finally, I gave up at around 10:30 at night and
requested for an epidural . (It is the most popular anesthesia for pain
relief during labour.) That epidural did not work for me. I was finally
operated and my first child, Aryaman, was born at midnight.

New beautiful phase of my life started with its own course of ups and down.
Most of the problems went away with time, except the most crucial back-ache
problem. Since Aryaman was born, this problem had persisted and it went
worse day by day. Possible reasons according to me were:
1. Aryaman was a heavy weight child.
2. Epidural was injected in wrong vertebra and any mishap with the spinal
cord can create problems for the whole life.
3. It’s the usual pain that comes as a package deal in pregnancy and
delivery.

I remember I tried everything to fight this pain including using hot water
bag, physiotherapy, twisting pose in yoga, lots of sleep, walk and exercise
and even Revital tablets  and still I couldn’t sit without a back
support. In any unfavorable or stressful situation, the pain came back
again. Bending down was like dying in that pain …. And finally I was clear I
have to live with it …..

After 3 years I had my second child, my baby girl Kuhu, and the backache
became worst ever. I was sure in my mind that this was something inevitable,
so this time I did not panic.

When my daughter was around 2 months old I met Kshitij. He gave us, me and
my husband, a book to read “Heal Your Body” and told me about EFT. This was
a very interesting world of emotional roots and energy blockage, and I
couldn’t resist talking to Kshitij about whether it really worked? He smiled
and confidently said it really did and my EFT session started.

This EFT session started in a completely insignificant manner and with lots
of fun too. Kshitij asked me so many things about the past, (I was like what
has it got to do with my backache) and made me do some funny thing.
Although I don’t remember a lot about what all he actually asked me or made
me do, but it included repeating few statements like “I truly love myself
and completely accept myself”.

I was very coachable and did as required. There was so much that opened up
for me in just that one session. I realized that I was born and brought up
in an environment where each and every penny counted and everything had
become valuable for me in my life. Even though I have abundance of money now
but I was still living with the same scarcity conversation about money. It
impacted everything in my life, even the most important relationship with my
husband. (u know usual arguments relating to money issues!)

With the help of these conversations about past and present, plus some EFT
exercises, all of my backache was gone. I kept looking for it for a few
days. I did all bending down, picking stuff from the floor, dancing, tiring
myself, picking weights, but to my surprise there was no backache. I
realized all the valid reasons for backache were just reasons I was giving
myself. The root cause was some financial insecurity that had crept in as
soon as Aryaman was born and I had to quit my job.

My EFT session resulted in a life free from backache along with a great
relationship with my husband, and not the least, the freedom to acknowledge
and enjoy all that I have in life!

I’m so thankful to Kshitij for he gave me the control of my emotions in my
life through EFT. Me being the heart of the family, having this tool is a
boon to be healthy myself and letting everybody in my family be healthy and
fit !

shephali shukla
shephalishukla@hotmail.com

Migraine(2) and Vertigo

Each time one is working on something, one needs to follow what one knows. And yet, one is required to be constantly in the “beginner’s mind”, perpetually alert to what exact path the healing wants to take. Actually, when one gets oneself out of the way, intuition has a field day, and that is when the fastest results happen.

The case in point is another migraine I worked on. Or ended up working on, though we were actually working on Vertigo.

She was suffering with vertigo for more than six months. She had been through the battery of tests and had consulted a few medical practitioners with marginal relief.

I followed my intuition and let her start speaking about her symptoms and which time during the day did they manifest the most. Her vertigo would start as soon as she got up in the morning and would go on till late in the day. Sometime even till the time she hit the bed again at night.

Instead of the usual repeated tapping for specific symptoms, I intutively felt like adopting another route. I asked her to talk to me. I also invited her to follow me and tap wherever I tapped, while she spoke to me. ( I took her through all the meridian points once before we started. )

Very gently, the conversation swayed to her present concerns, exploring the resonance of which took her to her childhood, and then to the incompletion with her late mother. Every once in a while, guided by my intuition, I would shift to a new point and so would she.

I asked her to talk to me about her childhood. Once warmed up to talking about her childhood, I asked her to talk about her mother. Her mother had passed away, after a couple of traumatic deaths in the family. Her sadness came up and gradually got dissolved. You could see a definite peace on her face in the later conversations about her mother.

I repeated the same thing for her father. She went through a similar cycle of sadness, but it was combined with anxiety as well, about his health and some other issues that could be troubling him.

There was no vertigo next morning.

She had reported the most severe bouts of vertigo when she would get up in the morning. Almost everyday, progressively getting worse, for last many months. But the next day, she got up normally, easily. So easily, that when I enquired about it in the afternoon, she talked to me as if I was asking about a distant memory, a condition which was ancient history! (which incidentally, is such a regular reaction I receive: Pain? What pain? Oh that pain!...yeah, it’s not there…yeah, it’s 0…yeah, I guess I should celebrate!)

She said she didn’t have any of her usual vertigo, but said that migraine was troubling her. It was almost implied that the vertigo has now become migraine!

I explained to her that in all likelihood, this migraine was independent of the vertigo we got rid of. But keeping a doubt in reserve, even if we assume that there was a connection, it still meant that something was cleaned up for something below the surface to show up, and all that was required was to chase the symptoms and dissolve them.

So we did another couple of rounds of tapping. I also made her do a “Detox-Pratyahar”, a relaxation-psyenergising routine. And she felt complete relief.

A couple of months later, when I asked her how she was doing, she said neither the vertigo nor the migraine had troubled her since we worked on them. Why wasn’t I surprised ?!!

Migraine(1)

I would like to share two inspiring successes with migraine and vertigo. In the first case, the migraine shifted from the left side to the right, and then disappeared completely. In the second case, we started working on vertigo. The vertigo disappeared, making way for , or was independently followed the next day by, migraine. A few more rounds of EFT and the migraine went away as well.

In the first case, I had known the girl socially for sometime(name withheld for confidentiality). I was aware that she had had a troubled childhood, involving a messy separation and divorce of her parents and the custody battles for her and her siblings.

When we started working on her migraine, she reported her headache at 9. We started tapping with “this headache” and “migraine”. After a few rounds, we tapped for “the remaining headache”. She reached at 4. But the pain got stuck at that level only.

Clearly, It was time to get to the emotional aspects. No guesses where they would have led us to. She remembered having these migraine attacks whenever she was witnessing, jurying over, or hopelessly trying to resolve, one of the fights between her parents. And it was first time during this session that she actually was present to the connection.

I asked her to visualize the one fight she remembered most vividly. She remembered one where the family was reuniting many years after the kids had been tossed from one parent to another. It was a time the kids (she and her two sisters ) were looking forward to. And yet, they were secretly scared.

Within a few hours of the family getting together, the inevitable happened: an uproarious altercation between the parents. While one of her siblings howled hysterically between the two of them and the other one cringed in a corner weeping silently.

We tapped for the fear, the anger and frustration at the situation, and at each of the parent, for their insensitivity and their ego trip.

We covered a few of these aspects. And then before I could ask her for any shift, she turned to me with a strange look in her eyes. She said that something unique had happened.Her pain had shifted from the right side of the head to the left side! In the long history of her migraine, this had never happened before. She was finding this itself extraordinary.

We chased the pain. (She was a little reluctant as for some reason she wanted to feel how it felt to have the migraine on the other side!!!)

One shortcut round, and the migraine was gone completely.

I last spoke to her a few months after we had worked on her migraine. And she had developed the most common side effect of EFT – AMNESIA! She had forgotten she ever had migraine troubling her so badly.